Family Strong Bonds focuses on differences as strengths
FORT SHAFTER – Family members and Soldiers of the 18th Medical Command (Deployment Support) learned what each other’s different personalities may be and how to coop with without shutting each other out during Strong Bonds Family Training at the Hilton Hawaii Village Waikiki Beach Resort Nov. 30 – Dec. 2.
Mrs. Adele Mueller, Myers and Briggs consultant, and wife of Hawaii Garriosn Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Peter Mueller talks to Rashon Osborne,16, and Gail Reid, son and wife of Staff Sgt. Thomas Reid Jr., during the 18th Medical Command (Deployment Support) Strong Bonds Family Training at the Hilton Hawaii village Waikiki Beach Resort Nov. 30 – Dec. 2.
During a discussion on behavior and responding when angry, Chaplain (Lt. Col.) William Sager, 18th MEDCOM (DS) told the families, “This is about learning how to shake off all the bad habits and not impose them on our family.”
“My mind is drawn to Philippians 4:8 as a pattern for response to a difficult situation. Whatever is true, noble, right, pure…think about such things,” Sager said. Mrs. Adele Mueller, Myers and Briggs consultant, and wife of Hawaii Garrison chaplain, Lt. Col. Peter Mueller, led a session that focused on helping adults, as-well-as teenagers, learn differences in their personalities.
After receiving this training the normal response from family members are, “I wish I had known that five years ago or it’s so nice to know that now,” said Mueller. “Training was very informative,” said Gail Reid, wife of Staff Sgt. Thomas Reid Jr., logistics specialist, 18th MEDCOM (DS).
Reid stated, the training taught good tools to use in relationships, and how to understand a person without making a judgment on how you think they really are. “When people find out that there are these differences, and they are not seen as weaknesses but strengths, and can appreciate in the other person these differences as strengths then you see them in a new light and you see that we all have variety within our families or within our marriages where we complement each other rather than using those differences as something to constantly fight with each other over,” said Mueller.
The Myers and Briggs study has many applications. This one is designed for families and teenagers to interact with the parents. The families learned differences between being an introvert and extrovert person, being a sensing or intuitive person representing how you like to take in information and how you communicate, how you make decisions, and how you conduct your life, whether you’re a list maker and organized or whether you just go with the flow. “Sometimes when a person is not fitting into one or the other style they feel like the odd man out, and it helps to know that you have something to bring, and you get the job done,” said Mueller.